San Francisco Dominatrix Penny Barber

I am the type of dominant woman who commands respect and obedience simply because it is what I am used to. This is not just because I am a San Francisco dominatrix and my career in D/s being based in the Kink Capitol of America. It is because I have made a decision about how to live my life.

Anaïs Nin wrote, “I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness.” She was talking about submitting to a men, but I can’t imagine anything more darkly and richly feminine than dominating a man. I love to let a man be ruled by his sex, teasing him with my stockings and heels, reshaping him with corsets and panties, claiming his body as my most personal plaything. Of course, as a switch, I thoroughly enjoy either interpretation of Nin’s words.

San Francisco Dominatrix Penny Barber
San Francisco Dominatrix Penny Barber

So what is it like to play with me? I enjoy immersive, theatrical BDSM scenes where we both get to escape the mundane world for a little while. My play space, located just over the Bay Bridge in Oakland, is equipped with a formal dungeon as well as a feminine bedroom. This allows me to switch back and forth between my two favorite roles: seductive Mistress and teasing Mommy. Rest assured, we will not be doing any domestic scenes right next to a black leather spanking horse. (Unless we’re doing a very complicated roleplay, which actually sounds like fun now that I really think about it. Okay, maybe we will!)

I’m a playful domme, but I certainly put the pro in pro domme! I use a booking form and require a deposit. This is not only to ensure that we’re both spending our time wisely. It helps me to better orchestrate our session so that we’re getting a memorable, fulfilling experience. Any Mistress worth her salt is also a facilitator. We all need to recharge and satisfy that craving for kink sometimes. I’m here to help you with that–and enjoy myself in the process!

My Ideal Submissive

My ideal sub is friendly, polite, well-groomed, and financially secure. Your submission is a gift given not just to me, but to yourself. You should openly share your fantasies and interests. (When I ask about your interests, please answer with something more imaginative than, “Whatever you want, Mistress.”) You should also be considerate, punctual, generous, and self-reliant. My ideal dominant fits the same description.

Kinks

I go into some of my kinks and fetishes in more depth, but I also wanted to include this list. It was taken from my session application and will give you an idea of the types of activities that I enjoy. Like many pro dommes, I’m always excited to hear something new, so if you don’t see your kink listed here, don’t worry. I’d love to hear about it!

  • Ageplay
  • Anal play
  • Bondage
  • Boots
  • Caning
  • Chastity training & key holding
  • Cock & ball torture (CBT)
  • Cuckolding
  • Diaper dominance & fetishism (ABDL)
  • Domestic discipline
  • Electrical torture
  • Enemas
  • Face slapping
  • Foot worship
  • Forced bi
  • Forced feminization
  • Forced regression
  • Gags
  • Golden showers
  • Humiliation
  • Hypnosis
  • Leather fetishism
  • Sissy maid training
  • Spanking (OTK)
  • Medical fetish
  • Mummification
  • Nipple torture
  • Pantyhose fetish
  • Photos & video
  • Play piercing
  • Pony play
  • Puppy play
  • Roleplay
  • Rope bondage
  • Sensory deprivation
  • Shaving
  • Sissification
  • Small penis humiliation (SPH)
  • Smothering
  • Sounds
  • Spitting
  • Stocking fetish
  • Strap-on training
  • Tease and denial (TnD)
  • Tickling
  • Trampling
  • Whipping
  • Wrestling (semi-competitive & fantasy only)

Limitations I am not available for sex, Roman showers, scat play, or fully competitive wrestling. I will respect your limits and expect you to respect mine. This is a non-negotiable consent issue.

MaleDom/femsub While most of my website is directed towards submissive and switch men, I do submit.

San Francisco Submissive Penny Barber
San Francisco Submissive Penny Barber

Ladies & Couples I’ve seen a few of you over the years, but I mostly cater to single men in my writing. (I have to play the percentages, you know.) I would love to play with you, though! Contact me and we’ll arrange a special session just for us.

San Francisco Dominatrix Penny Barber